You Can’t Even Take Your Son to Parties Anymore!" — Nigerian Man Laments Over Increasingly Sexualized Events

A Nigerian man has sparked widespread conversation online after publicly lamenting the rising trend of hyper-sexualized behavior at public parties, especially by women — including those he described as "baddies" and "supposed mothers."

Taking to social media, the concerned father and social commentator expressed his frustration and disappointment, stating that Nigerian parties — once seen as family-friendly gatherings — are now unsuitable for children, even when held in public spaces.

“All these baddies, women and supposed mothers don turn parties to rated adult-only events. You can’t go to parties now and take your young son with you. WTF!” he wrote.

The post quickly gained traction, igniting debate around decency, cultural norms, and public conduct, particularly in family and community settings.

In recent years, Nigerian social events — from weddings to birthday parties and concerts — have taken on a more adult-themed tone, with many featuring risqué dancing, suggestive outfits, and even live performances not suitable for underage guests.

Critics argue that what used to be a place for communal bonding and celebration is increasingly turning into adult nightlife scenes, regardless of the occasion.

“Na party wey dem say na one-year-old birthday, but dem don turn am to strip club by midnight,” one user commented in agreement.

“It’s really sad. You go to weddings and people are twerking in front of elders and children. Where’s the respect?” another person added.

Not everyone agrees with the man’s criticism. Some respondents defended the current party culture, arguing that people have a right to express themselves and have fun — especially adults who attend parties to unwind.

“Don’t bring your kids if you don’t like it. Let people enjoy themselves. Everything doesn’t have to be PG,” one user fired back.

“There are children’s parties and there are adult parties. Know the difference and plan accordingly,” another added.

This debate reflects a broader tension in Nigerian society — between traditional values of modesty and community and the increasing Western influence on fashion, dance, and entertainment.

Some elders and cultural advocates have warned that excessive exposure to adult behavior at a young age may normalize indecency and erode the values the country holds dear.

While some call for stricter event planning to clearly separate child-friendly and adult entertainment, others suggest simply being mindful of the setting, audience, and cultural context — especially at open gatherings.

“We’re not saying don’t enjoy yourself, but remember, a party is a public space. Some things are best left for the club — not your cousin’s wedding,” a commentator said.